7 Stupid Wedding Mistakes Even Smart Couples Make

“What in the world could they have been thinking?”

Definitely words you DON’T want to hear your guests uttering at your wedding. But despite your best intentions, sometimes things slip through the cracks. Sometimes you make a really silly mistake that, if you had just stopped and thought about it for a few minutes, never would have happened.

The problem is that many brides and grooms are so darn busy trying to manage everything else that’s going on – from housing out-of-town guests to dealing with last-minute cancellations or additions to the guest list — they simply overlook the obvious. That’s when smart people wind up making really stupid mistakes. Here are seven common slip-ups that can ruin an otherwise perfect ceremony.

1. Failing to Thank the Guests

They came to the wedding. They brought gifts. They stopped and congratulated you and took time out of their busy lives to help you celebrate the joining of you and your beloved in a new life together. Don’t leave the reception hall without saying thank you!

2. Speaking While Intoxicated

This one should be a new form of misdemeanor. If your wedding traditions include the bride or groom making a speech to the assembled guests, do it before you enjoy the free bar. You’ll be thankful later when you watch the wedding videos, and you won’t have to apologize to people you don’t remember insulting.

3. Beware the Infamous “Wardrobe Malfunction”

Black underwear, white dress. It was a bad idea in elementary school, and it’s still a bad idea today. Check in a mirror in various lighting situations to make sure that your dress isn’t sheer or invisible in certain conditions prior to the ceremony. If you are renting a tux, check it for rips and make sure you have it fitted before you bring it home. Also, black is the only acceptable color for a tuxedo.

4. Late to the Altar

Not only is this one inconsiderate to the guests and your soon-to-be spouse, but it also wreaks havoc on your vendors. Ice sculptures melt, food gets cold, and photographers lose needed time to pose people and get those still shots for memory albums. The only reason you should ever be late to your own wedding would be something completely beyond your control – like a force of nature.

5. Running out of Food/Drinks

You made the guest list. You know how many people you expect to be there. Running out of food is a good way to make sure your guests feel unappreciated and is inexcusable. This is not the place to save money. Make sure you have enough dinner and drinks for all who are expected to attend; it’s better to throw some away than have hungry guests and nothing to feed them.

6. Know Where the Ring Is Before Walking Down the Aisle

It happens more than you might think. The best man is supposed to be holding the rings, and he leaves them in his other coat. The bride expects them to be brought on a pillow but the ring-bearer is only eight and thought they were golden Barbie doll crowns. Do one more spot check for the rings before you start down the aisle and you won’t have to worry about an awkward moment and a ruined ceremony.

7. Inviting Your “Ex” – Without Telling Anyone

Unless there is an extremely good reason for inviting your ex-boyfriend or ex-wife, don’t do it. It makes everyone uncomfortable. A close corollary to this is not letting members of the wedding party know what your betrothed’s name is (yes, it sounds unbelievable but it DOES happen). If you have not been engaged for a long time, or you recently ended a long-standing relationship prior to your wedding and your wedding party isn’t familiar with your intended, make sure you introduce them. You don’t want to deal with a wedding toast to you and your ex-girlfriend because the best man didn’t know your bride’s name!

Stupid Expectations Can Ruin a Marriage

Marriage is a relationship in which partners have expectations from each other. Half hidden, unspoken and sometimes childish expectations about married life push husbands and wives in their realization stage. Things are different before marriage when the “chemical” of infatuation is high among the partners. Generally during that period, lovers don’t expect much from each other but try to please their companion in every way. They buy gifts and wait for the moment when their companion opens it and gives a joyful reaction.

The love life is largely driven by emotions that people have created by reading books, magazines and watching television and movies. The set of rules begin forming in our minds when we are in our childhood and teen years and want to see the world with our own eyes. This is the age when majority of people develop fantasies about their life partners, shadi mandap, shadi decorations, and wedding songs etc. Along with that, most of us absorb silent imperatives about the roles wives and husbands from our parents, society, religious and cultural affiliations. Teenaged romances and close friendships also shape our expectations.

The toughest part is when the fantasies start to tumble out after marriage. Even the couples who do a mandir wedding after years of having a live-in relationship face such issues. The happy ever after love story is not based on one partner meeting all the expectations of the other. Therefore partners need to realize that imaginary fantasies about what your spouse do and shouldn’t do are dangerous and can ruin even a perfect marriage.

Holding your spouse responsible for something that you have only in your mind is an impossible standard to meet. Science has not yet invented a gadget that can read a person’s mind and till then, communicating personally with each other about your expectations is a good idea. This article is not stating that a person should not have any expectation from the partner. However, you should know your limit. Sit together and share your thoughts on understanding each other’s point of view about certain marriage perceptions that are common, such as what does being a couple mean? Keeping things alive and colorful just as the wedding flowers and wedding decorations is important. Talk about how are you going to take care of your finances after marriage? Will you support each other in case of financial problems, illness, sadness and other not so happy moments? How much will you let family interfere in your personal life after marriage? Will you open a joint account or want to spend money individually? Thinking about such questions together will enable you to identify your own and your partner’s expectations and you will be in a better position to take care of any disagreement with each other.

Digital Photography Tips For Travellers and Travel Photographers

Here are just a few digital photography tips that I have put together to help you get better and more exciting pictures while travelling. Whether it’s local inter-country travel or global travelling, or maybe its the yearly well earned vacation, these digital photography tips will help you in someway to achieving that once in a life time photograph that every photographer strives for. Whether it’s for a competition or just to show off to your friends or family there should be a digital photography tip here for everyone interested.

Always plan ahead. This may sound like the most stupid and simple thing in the world but this is a very important piece for any traveller or person on vacation. If you’re planning a vacation why not look ahead and see what’s on in the area that you’re visiting, maybe there’s a festival on that you didn’t know about or a large street market. Both perfect photograph opportunities if I may add. Why not plan your travels around an event like the running of the bulls in Pampelona or how about the Oktoberfest in Munich? It might be in your interest to look ahead and see if there are any interesting events on in your area of travel. Another very simple tip that needs to be planned ahead is the type of electrical power in the areas that you are travelling within. Well, you will need somewhere to recharge your camera batteries, or to place your newly taken pictures onto your laptop. There’s loads of different travel plugs on the market and it pays to have one with you. If you haven’t, make sure you have spare batteries with you for your camera because you can guarantee that after your batteries die you will come across hundreds of great picture opportunities.

Travel light. If you are going on vacation for the sole purpose of photography then I think it would go without saying to travel with only what you need. The last thing you need is to be carrying round loads of gear while trying to rush from place to place. The bottom line is that if you are in anyway serious about photography then I would assume that your equipment will be worth a considerable amount of money. Possibly running over the 2000 dollars or pound price range. So the last thing that you need happening while trying to have fun and enjoy yourself is for items to get broken or even stolen. If you have too much equipment with you and too many bags then at some stage the inevitable will happen. What you need is the digital camera with possible spare batteries, maybe a spare memory card, your flash and last but not least your laptop with CD’s or DVD’s. Remember to always back up your pictures once you get a chance and possibly copy or burn them onto a disc. If your still maybe worried about losing them, then post a disc home, that way every situation is covered.

These digital photography tips may sound easy or simple but they are actually very simple to forget. As they say be prepared or prepare to fail.